If you are going through a really nasty split and you and your spouse are fighting over who gets everything, don’t be surprised if you end up fighting over the kids too. Everyone knows that even though people get married with no intentions of ever breaking up, divorce happens. Sometimes people change so much that they lose site of the feelings and promises they once made to each other. Sometimes people separate because they just don’t get along any longer. No matter what the reason is for your split, determining who gets custody of the kids is one of the most important decisions that need to be made for the best interest of the children.
Dealing with child custody issues can be particularly nerve racking since both parties often feel that the children are better off with them. In matters of children welfare and divorces, the courts often side with the side of the mother, unless of course it is blatant that staying with her causes more harm than good.
If you want to end up with sole physical custody of your children, you need to hire a child custody lawyer to defend your rights and win your case. It can be hard to prove that you are the better parent and the children would flourish more under your care. Depending on all the issues involved, child custody cases can take a long time to resolve. In fact, many times a judge can award joint custody to a divorcing couple. If you have proof that the other parent is harmful or not the kind of person you want your child exposed to and you want to be in charge of when that other parent can see the children, you need to make sure that you get sole custody.
Finding a child custody lawyer who is experienced enough to take on your case can be a bit challenging if you don’t know what to look for. You want someone who has several years of verifiable experience winning custody cases. They must hold current license with the ABA (American Bar Association). They must also be the type of attorney that you feel comfortable working with. Let’s face it, in divorce and child custody cases people’s skeletons often come out of the closet. If you find yourself with a lawyer you don’t feel at ease with, you need to find one you do feel comfortable with, because they will need to know just about everything about you so they can develop several different game plans to win your case.
Not only will they use the laws in your state to support your case, they will also use personal situations that have occurred in your marriage to show your strengths and your previous partner’s weaknesses as a parent. Children need strong parents who make good role models for them to emulate. There is no reason for your children to know that you and your ex-spouse don’t agree about whom they should stay with. Getting a lawyer will help you to keep all of the proceeding cordial, pleasant and amicable for everyone involved.